Harmony in Life

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I was with this person the other day who just didn’t like anything. I mean anything. Didn’t like getting up, going to bed, walking, riding, etc. They just thought life sucked. It’s sad when you meet people like that, but sometimes you just need to leave them alone before they pull you down in the mud with them.

Over the years I’ve learned to try to balance my thinking by going to the opposite thought. Looking around me I realized that life has a harmony about it. If there is a right, there has to be a left. If there is up, there is going to be down. Front, back; in, out. You get the picture.

So if I am feeling down about something, I need to balance it with an up thought. For example, I messed up something the other day and proclaimed to myself, “I’m an idiot.” At the moment, the statement had some merit, but it was only half the story. My balance statement was “I’m very cleaver.” Both statements are true, so why just dwell in the negative? There are probably a lot of things we have done wrong in our life, so isn’t it refreshing to know we have done so many good things too. 

One of my thoughts during my journey was the desire to write a book. It took fifty years to finally balance “I can’t write a book,” with the thought “I can write a book.” It brought such harmony I wrote several. Check out my progress (Click Here).
BOOK FLYER

Heavenly thoughts for writers

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A lot of communities are now known as “Gated Communities” which simply means nobody gets in unless they’re invited. As I entered one of these communities, I suddenly realized according to general religious consensus, Heaven is a “Gated Community”. The Pearly Gates keep out unwanted visitors and protect the residents from bad people. I guess St. Peter is supposed to be the “cop at the gate”. Hmmm, for what’s supposed to be a friendly place to live, it doesn’t sound so good from that perspective.

Anyhow, the reason I got into thinking about heaven was a joke a writer friend told me. Goes like this:

A writer died and was given the option of going to heaven or hell.

She decided to check out each place first. As the writer descended into the fiery pits, she saw row upon row of writers chained to their desks in a steaming sweatshop. As they worked, they were repeatedly whipped with thorny lashes.

“Oh my,” said the writer. “Let me see heaven now.”

A few moments later, as she ascended into heaven, she saw rows of writers, chained to their desks in a steaming sweatshop. As they worked, they, too, were whipped with thorny lashes.

“Wait a minute,” said the writer. “This is just as bad as hell!”

“Oh no, it’s not,” replied an unseen voice. “Here, your work gets published.”

Sad but true.

J.T.Twerell is a practicing psychologist in Manhattan, New York and author of several award winning books including:

Signal 30 – Readers View Reviewers Choice Book of the year 2011
Catch and Release – Top winners at London Book Festival, Los Angeles Book Show and Beach Book Fair 2013
Off the Hook – Winner at Feathered Quill Book Award and Southeast Book Show 2014
Catch and Release – Winner Best AudioBook at 2014 Paris Book Festival
Dragon’s Orb – Honorable mention – 2014 Paris Book Festival
Dragon’s Orb – Winner Best Mystery – 2014 Beach Book Festival

Visit his website at www.JTTwerell.com or go to Amazon.com click here

FOREVER YOURS – MY NEW BOOK

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Book and ebook on Amazon (click here)

From 1946 to 1964, 76.4 million “baby boomers” are born in the United States, making up almost 40 percent of the nation’s population. Forever Yours, a mainstream fiction, reflects the story of this generation as they face the trials and uncertainties of the evolving American dream.

In 1963, James and Beth meet in college, fall in love, marry, and then traverse the following decades through various countries, tragedies, adventures, and children. Their love grows stronger until in the end, not even death can keep them apart.

Jeff becomes a writer who struggles to find his voice in a society undergoing a cultural and emotional revolution. From Vietnam through the Kennedy and MLK assassinations, his world is cast in startling and often frightening fashion. Beth is a free spirited individual who embraces the new independence of the modern woman. From her same-sex affair, the completion of her Ph.D., and the tragic death of a child, Beth continues to explore and love life.

The challenges of existence take on a larger-than-life twist through their good friend Steven “Bugs” Cramer, a talented musician who embraces the love and beauty of the world around him. Tragically, he is killed in Vietnam, yet his continuing presence in their lives demonstrates there is more to this journey than meets the eye. They lose a child at birth and yet are comforted by the supernatural presence of their friend Bugs. Ultimately, their love meets the final challenge of mortality, and even then Bugs helps them transcend this world’s limited understanding.

Writer’s Digest 2nd Draft says, “This story is full of memorable scenes, lively characters, anecdotes that make the story-world come alive, and various other elements that all highlight the work of a very talented writer.”

A great adventure

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A few years ago I decided to try fiction as a creative tool. One of my better decisions. Not sure I will ever like marketing, but do love writing. Thanks to all who supported my new phase of life. 

J.T.Twerell is a practicing psychologist in Manhattan, New York and author of several award winning books including:

Signal 30 – Readers View Reviewers Choice Book of the year 2011
Catch and Release – Top winners at London Book Festival, Los Angeles Book Show and Beach Book Fair 2013
Off the Hook – Winner at Feathered Quill Book Award and Southeast Book Show 2014
Catch and Release – Winner Best AudioBook at 2014 Paris Book Festival
Dragon’s Orb – Honorable mention – 2014 Paris Book Festival
Dragon’s Orb – Winner Best Mystery – 2014 Beach Book Festival

 

Passion

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I was thinking about passion the other day and how important it is to life. Some people think passion is just some sex thing, but in reality it means: fervor, ardor, enthusiasm, eagerness, zeal, vigor, fire, energy, fervency, spirit, fanaticism.

Why is passion important? To me, without passion, life is a routine that becomes a place we get stuck. With passion, life is an adventure.

Bill Cosby, a great comedian and truly a thinking philosopher, once said,

 “Anyone can dabble, but once you’ve made that commitment, your blood has that particular thing in it, and it’s very hard for people to stop you.”

One of my passions is writing. It is just something that makes my life an adventure. Ray Bradbury, a great writer, once said about writing,

“Love it. Fall in love and stay in love. Write only what you love, and love what you write. The key word is love. You have to get up in the morning and write something you love, something to live for.”

What’s your passion? If we don’t have some reason to get up in the morning, then we will probably just stay in bed till we die. 

Politically Correct

This is definitely the age of being politically correct. As I found out doing this blog, it is easy to offend somebody when that is the last thing on my mind. I did some checking and here are some of the politiaclly correct terms for today.
Illegal Immigrant —- Undocumented Worker
Global Warming —- Climate Change
Liberal, Socialist, Communist —- Progressive
Conservative —- Wingnut
Illegal Voter —- Undocumented Citizen
Failure —- Pre-achiever
Drug Dealer —- Undocumented Pharmacist
Smack, Meth, Crack, Weed —- Non-prescribed Pharmaceuticals
Bribe —- Unearned Bonus
Kickback —- Public Service Bonus
Crook —- Pre-ethical Citizen
Wanted Criminal —- Person of Interest
Polygamy —- Undocumented Multicultural Marriage
Earmark —- Investment in District
Deficit —- Investment by Future Workers
Dropout —- Undocumented Early Graduate
Con Artist —- Undocumented Attorney
Politician —- Un-indicted Co-conspirator
Death —- Healthcare Cost Reduction
Dead —- Reduced Carbon Footprint

These are just some of what is now “PC”.Therefore, from this point forward please do not refer to me as old;
I am not old, I am chronologically gifted.

Modern Romance

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The term modern romance often conjures up thought s of hot steamy love affairs with fantasy men and perfect women. While these creative stories may be part of the focus for some genre, to me the core to understanding this aspect of human interaction begins with an appreciation of the modern woman. The last forty years served as a backdrop for the emergence of women into a world that was, in many ways, ill prepared for her arrival.

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While the women’s movement of the 60’s paved a new road, the true modern woman is not defined or constrained by social\political ideals. Rather, she is a woman who walks upon a stage as an equal and not as a possession. In her daily journey she still struggles with equality in many segments, however her main stress often comes not from without but from within.

“Now that I can be what I want, who am I?” The urge to be competitive in the new open market and still maintain her own unique feminine identity continues to be a daily battle for the modern woman.   In my opinion, when contemporary romance is explored, this struggle needs to come to the forefront. While it is still an enjoyable fantasy to dream of a shipwreck on a deserted Island with a rock solid male providing every aspect of romance and sexual intrigue, it is simply a fantasy.

My wife, Dr. Janetta Astone Twerell and I are both practicing therapist in the New York City metropolitan area where we work with men, women and couples who attempt to navigate the maze of relationships in this modern society. This exposure provides an eye-opening insight into the struggles of our current society. As an author, my desire is to explore the many aspects of romance and relationships through the realistic mêlées of contemporary social understanding.

Always curious, I would like to hear comments about modern romance from others perspectives. Comment below or leave a thought on twitter or Facebook.